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Choosing Friends Wisely



With the creation of Facebook and other social media sites it has become very easy to make friends. However, from an Islamic perspective it is very important to choose your friends carefully because the way they behave will have an influence on the way you behave. Good friends will encourage you to do good deeds and warn you to avoid the bad deeds. Allah (s.w.t) advises us in the Quran:
O Believers, be careful of your duty to Allah, and be with the truthful people. (9:119).
The company of the truthful friends will encourage you to fulfill your duties to Allah (s.w.t) and help you stay on the straight path of Islam. On the contrary, bad friends can persuade you to do things that you know are wrong. The Holy Prophet (Peace be upon him) is reported to have said:
The best friend in the sight of Allah is he who is the well-wisher of his companion. (Transmitted by Tirmidhi).
This hadith is very important because it reminds us that we must choose sincere friends who truly want to be our friends because they care about us and want us to be happy in this world and in the hereafter. Unfortunately there are those who pretend to be our friends but they use this "friendship" to gain benefits for themselves.
Sometimes people are known for the friends that they have. As the Holy Prophet (may peace be upon him) said:
A person generally follows the way of his close friends. Everyone must judge a person by the company he keeps. (Transmitted by Abu Dawud).
In Islam we Muslims are encouraged to have a good social life and to make friends. However, it is most important to be the best person you can be. Therefore, while having friends can be a good thing, you can also enjoy being by yourself sometimes. There is a famous saying that says: "Birds of a feather flock together." This is used to mention that just as birds of the same kind fly together, human beings also choose friends with common interests and goals.
When choosing friends you should first think, "Does this person have qualities that I admire?" Admirable qualities should include high standards of morals and manners. If we have friends that have good morals and manners we will also be encouraged to behave properly. By sharing the company of good people, we can improve ourselves using their example, and similarly, they may learn from our example. However, if we join the company of those who are known to behave badly, we may slip into bad habits as well. Sometimes, we may be tempted to make friends with such people because they seem to be popular. However, they are very unpopular with Allah (s.w.t) and His is the only pleasure we should seek.
Source: Islamic Tahdhib and Akhlaq by Aisha Lemu

4 comments:

  1. Great, Yasmine... Keep on dear.
    But remember.. only genuine writings ^_^
    like wht u wrote!

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  2. Thank you for the kind comment sister Amal!

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  3. So true i learned this by the time i was about 9 or 10 but put the knowledge to use when i could actually grasp the meaning. but i live by this and make sure i keep only good company and like my father told me he can count all his real friends on one hand.

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  4. on behalf of Yasmine Raoufi who posted this article... thank you!

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