Allaahu Akbar, Allaahu Akbar, Allaahu Akbar, Laa ilaaha il-lAllaah, Allaahu Akbar Allaahu Akbar, Wa Lil-laahil-hamd

(Allaah is the Greatest, Allaah is the Greatest, Allaah is the Greatest,there is no god but Allaah; Allaah is the Greatest and to Allaah be all praise)

A second wife!

My husband married a younger woman to have kids, what shall I think?

Look, you can either disbelieve him and live in sorrow and regret, and may loose your life with him (if you really feel he is a kind person that cares for you and treats you the best way, this could be a great loss), 
or you can just believe him, and try to live in happiness and use this new situation for your benefit. 

This new "younger woman" that came to your life is your sister, if you were not married and still waiting for a husband, you may accept to be a second wife instead of not having a husband at all, of course you'd prefer to be the only wife, but if you didn't find this opportunity, then what shall you do? 



I think you should try to get closer to her, and cooperate together to make your family happier, she is younger, and stronger, she can be of good help at the housework if you don't mind her living with you, and you are older, more wise, just like her elder sister, if she trusted you, she would then count on your advises in any new issue that shows up ..and who knows, there are many cases when the husband married again to get a child when his 1st wife got pregnant afterwards. 

Had Allah willed and she got a baby, you'd then be happy, at least you wouldn't feel guilt for not giving your husband the chance to have a child, and had you wished, you could be a second mother to him/her.

but had Allah willed and she didn't get pregnant, try not to feel like a winner, or blame your husband for his second marriage, coz it's all Allah's will from beginning to end. 

And suppose his love to you has decreased, he could hen have divorced you, he has nothing to lose, you have no children anyway, and his new marriage will cost him more, but he didn't do that! he cares for you and feels responsibility for you. 
Malaysian Muslim with his two wives
You can keep your husband's love to you growing by your good treatment to him and your new sister, and by decreasing as possible the problems that can emerge from the contact between you and your new sister. 

Things will be hard at first, but after a while of time, life will go by, and you'll get used to the new situation, and don't forget, every problem you show patience to, you will be rewarded for in the Hereafter.

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