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Islam regarding piety

The ongoing problem of watching porn and masturbation..

Bismillah Alrahman Alrahim


There is a certain party in this world aims to expel people out of their religion and normal lives and turn them into slaves of their desires, and whenever you go, your eyes will accidentally fall on inappropriate photos of men and women improperly dressed, till it turns into your involuntary mind into something normal that all do and practice.

As a consequence, you'll daily hear of girls of 15 years old getting pregnant while at school! And teenagers just contemplating suicide just coz others said they are not sexy!
Who has the benefit from all that? Those who sell us such fake things, who count their profits from selling pornography and engaging people in sex just to forget about what's going on in the world..
Stealing nation's national resources, selling drugs, more food and dressing consumption, more money, and let the world just burn!

So such a great mess in life is all intended.. you may have heard of those who consider themselves to be the chosen ones among Allah's creation, logically, in order to be really the chosen ones, others should simply be in a lower grade, so how to establish this? Just spoil their human nature, and it's indeed so easy.. one call to the Satan and everything will be arranged!

I'M NOT ADDRESSING ONLY MUSLIMS; I'M ADDRESSING ALL HUMANS WHO READ THIS!

Watching pron is very dangerous, and it was intended to ruin our emotions and keep us stuck in place.
When your eyes fall on a porn photo, just take a moment and think: what's so disgusting about a human with alert mind to just expose his/her flesh as if they're like a piece of meat hanged to be sold? Even meat is covered to save from spoilage!


In fact, these actions have evacuated the concept of love and mercy from their values, leaving just a vacant, dirty grade of sub-animal behaviour (indeed, animals have morals better than that!)… I don't find any pleasure in that but a pure selfish attitude towards fulfilling one's desires in the dirtiest way ever!

What's so lovely in a piece of skin with underlying muscles and blood?, and what a price he/she took from exposing their skin that way? Does it really worth it? And if for free, it would be even worse!

If you look deep inside, you'll find a healthy and satisfactory relationship is based on delicate emotions with a complex of responsibility, love, respect and mercy. This complex ensures fulfilling one's needs and desires while keeping dignity and self respect, it also ensures the feeling of safety and stability. No healthy relationship could ever accomplish that but marriage.

So, to keep this healthy environment, one should be satisfied with his/her partner, to view him/her clearly without delusions or (external noise), and this can't exist without lowering your gaze:

30-قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ذَلِكَ أَزْكَى لَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ
31-وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلاَّ مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلاَّ لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاء وَلا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

[24:30] Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest. That is purer for them. Lo! Allah is aware of what they do.

31 And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands' fathers, or their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sisters' sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed.

Look how Islam put limits to behaviour towards the other gender, commanding both men and women to lower their gaze and preserve their modesty, that's to preserve the rights of both man and woman (and also their future children) to live peacefully under the umbrella of marriage as a legal status that keeps rights of all parties.

Lowering your gaze has a deeper meaning. That is, when you see none but your spouse, you develop the sense of being satisfied with his/her characters, feel happy with them, and accept them as a whole one unit not dividing good and bad. 

This applies whether you're married or not (protecting the rights of future spouse), cos the hardest thing on one's soul is comparison between people and his/her spouse. We see the outer faces of people most of the times, and we judge them according to that, so that we might think they are better than our partners which is not always right, cos the concept of good and better here is proportional. i.e. a perfect human in my eyes can simply be hard to live with, while a less perfect one is more manageable and more loving.

Masturbation, a serious problem among teenagers:

As a result to all the influences around us in streets and on different mass media, teens found themselves heavily affected and stressed while they don't have an exit to relief, this lead to emergence of the problem of excess masturbation.

Many would say: it's a normal phenomenon of that age… yes it's normal but within what limit?
Normal limits depend on the process of evacuation of stored fluids (especially in males) and the required period differs from one to another.

It's mostly expressed by having a "wet dream" and rarely found during awakening.

But this is not what's meant here. Some find themselves stuck in the habit on a daily basis, with no ability to stop it.. they just put more pressure on their muscles and it ends up with no pleasure at all.
In men, it leads to premature ejaculation and some suffer from weakness and lowered ability to perform a healthy relation after marriage. In women, it lowers the level of satisfaction with their husbands and also affects muscles of legs an a severe manner.

So, how to suppress this problem?

1st: fasting!
Fasting is the weapon Prophet Muhammad revealed to combat this problem. Since these are fluids, water is needed, and if you reduce water and food intake by fasting, you don't supply enough nutrients to urge this feeling.
You can simply put a strategy that if you made this action, you'd fast one day as a punishment to yourself and a means of repentance to Allah, and it works well indeed. Besides, fasting lets you get closer to Allah and feel more control over your desires.
Seek Allah's help, don't give up praying and making Duaa and Istighfar.

Note: Masturbation ruins fasting and if in Ramadan you'll need to repeat the day, it also requires you to make Ghusl (full wash/shower) before you can pray.

2nd: lowering your gaze.
Stop watching any inappropriate matter, don't let your eyes fall on any woman or man on the street lustfully, but always look straight forward and feel the higher dignity you gain by putting limits to your sight

3rd: start establishing healthy social relationship with family.
Just spend less time on computer and engage in social life.. spend more time with family, go out for sport, or even take your books and study in the near yard

4th: insist on reaching your goals.
Focus on your aim, don't let anything deviate you.. and take steady steps towards it. Be insistent but not so harsh on yourself.. lessening this act it better than nothing, and small progress is better than not at all, so just don't give up trying.


Marriage under Islamic rules:

It's amazing how the Shariaa stated that a virgin is to be asked her permission by her father with her silence to be a sign of approval, and her father might find her the proper husband depending on his experience. That's because a virgin woman has no experience dealing with the other gender, but in all cases she's not to be obliged to marry someone she doesn't feel comfortable to.

But the case is different concerning a woman who had a previous marriage experience (whether divorced or widowed), she's to be asked and she must express agreement, that's cos she's now experienced enough to decide which is best for her and no need for anybody to choose for her.

I don't get it… how people permit their children to have sex at the school age around 14 , get pregnant, undergo abortion or offer the child for adoption yet not legalize marriage though all that!!!

Yes marriage is a great responsibility, and whoever intends to get married shall weigh his capabilities weather he could accomplish that or not. Yet, if you know well your son or daughter isn't yet prepared for such thing, then don't give permission for any kind of sexual affair till they get married.

Even when they reach 16-18, no one can imagine the devastating effects of failed relationships at such age, which raises the rate of suicide and gay actions (as an exit from having unintentional children) and let no one say just take your cautions not to get pregnant, because if Allah wants it, then it will be, no matter how strong your barrier is.

Life under adoption is just another misery.. it leaves a very bad impact knowing one is adopted with unknown real parents. But their numbers are increasing, thanks to the sexual affairs away from marriage.

So please be merciful on your children, and let them focus on their future to be successful in their lives.

consider viewing this video.. I agree with most of it, though some points are argumental to me ^__^


This is a useful link:
The Sin of Fornication and Adultery

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9 comments:

  1. I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said until the masturbation paragraphs. I happen to believe masturbation is a God given activity. Physically we are suited for it, our arms are precisely the right length, we have an opposing thumb enabling us to grip, and our genitals are right up front within easy reach. On the female side, women are capable of multiple orgasms, have numerous erogenous zones and an organ totally dedicated to her sexual pleasure. Man is incapable of matching woman's ability to enjoy in all her different means. How then does woman satisfy her need? Through masturbation.

    Onan is NOT involved in this discussion at all because his sin was NOT masturbation, he spilled his seed on the ground by withdrawing rather than give his brother an heir, as God told him to do. Disobeying God was his sin.

    Lust? If one keeps his mind on the business at hand instead of pornography or other lustful thoughts, it too is a non-issue.

    Masturbation is a useful tool for young girls and boys to learn their bodies and how to interpret its signals and yes, an outlet for repressed desires. I champion our ostracized Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders, in our belief that masturbation should be taught instead of guiding our young people away from it with old wives tales of insanity, hair growing on our palms and etc. Masturbation should be enjoyed with no guilt, no shame and no regrets.

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  2. Salam Alikom, Solo.

    Masturbation if done on regular basis is considered energy waste, and it really affects ones emotions and thoughts, it makes human not able to controlling his desires and feeling hard to cope with harsh life demands since marriage is not easily funded nowadays for many.. so the exit would be an affair which is another devastating story.

    you can't judge masturbation until you experience normal healthy relationship within marriage and find out the difference.. there's a difference!

    many have complained of weakness and elevated nerve sensitivity due to frequent masturbation so it is not something to be denied, yes many will say: no you're wrong, but those who've gone through this experience know it.

    Masturbation was one of the things which religion didn't put a sharp line for.. coz this is subjected to different circumstances and different personalities as well.. some can have control, but some can't .. but let those who make it know well this isn't the normal state, so they put it within very narrow limit according to demanding necessity.

    you can't imagine the amount of complaint among teenagers who wish to cut down this habit due to feeling its bad effects.. they won't seek a way out if they were satisfied, will they?
    and their complaint indicates that they over-practise it.. coz it simply could go with you without limit if you don't control it.

    you see I've linked here between watching porn and other similar things and this habit.. coz if assuming someone who doesn't watch porn but would need to do this act in specific situation, it wouldn't then become a complaint, coz it would be simply like taking a medicine when ill, but when healthy, medicine is harmful

    you're welcome ^___^

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  3. The Muslim religion was created by people (i.e., men) who drew from the Jewish and Christian religions. The Christian religion was created the same way - by men (& maybe a few women) who based it on the Jewish religion. The creation of the Jewish religion was largely based upon ancient religions of the middle east. There is a lot of evidence to this.


    I got to this site via a link on http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20130110204658AAe75dc but won't get into discussing the content of that page. Other than to say that most of the replies, based upon religions, were not very logical. But, religions tend to be illogical.

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  4. Assalamu aalaikum
    I am a revert myself, and before coming to Islam, I had similar views as your own, simply because I was uneducated about Islam.

    The Muslim religion (Islam) was not created by any man, but rather detailed/set/described by GOD (اللهAllah in Arabic) HIMSELF. This is evident in the overall perfection and depth of Islam. If Islam had been created by a man, (mortal) we would find many flaws within Islam because man is an imperfect being. Such flaws simply do not exist and I would like to challenge anyone to find such a flaw if they think otherwise (hint: You’d be wasting your time)

    The Qur’an in itself is the verbatim word of Allah, and being that would have to be free of error as Allah is completely perfect in every way. Allah has promised Qur’an free of corruption and so it has remained this way. There are no mistakes in Qur’an, everything is described, nothing left out, and there are numerous miracles that appear within Qur’an that could only be revealed by The Almighty Himself. No human being has the ability of such knowledge, nor can the miracles and prophecies told by Qur’an be otherwise explained except by divine knowledge that we humans are incapable of.

    Furthermore, the statement that Islam was derived from the Jewish and Christian religions is simply incorrect and illogical. But rather Christianity and other religions came later and were written by men with twisted and clouded judgment. Islam has been around since creation. Many who are uneducated about Islam have the incorrect view that Islam is a “new” religion because the Quran (in written form) was not revealed until later. They are wrongly informed that Islam started when the Quran was revealed to the prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) However they forget that teachings can be and were still there and practices can be and were still there before the written Quran and before the Quran was revealed to Muhammad (s.a.w.). People have known the will of Allah since creation, yet they have chosen to go against it and twist it into their own perverse ways. Yet Islam and the teachings and the message of Islam and word of Allah have been passed down and spread and revealed through all of our prophets From Adam (a.s.) all the way to the final prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) since the beginning of man. Again I would like to ask if Islam were based on other religions written by imperfect mortls, how the perfect and miracles detailed by Quran and hadith would be there that do not exists in other religions. Would this be possible? If you are honest with yourself, the answer is "absolutely not."

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  5. Muslimah... salam alikom..

    you're just telling the meaning of this verse:

    42:13شَرَعَ لَكُم مِّنَ الدِّينِ مَا وَصَّى بِهِ نُوحًا وَالَّذِي أَوْحَيْنَا إِلَيْكَ وَمَا وَصَّيْنَا بِهِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَمُوسَى وَعِيسَى أَنْ أَقِيمُوا الدِّينَ وَلا تَتَفَرَّقُوا فِيهِ كَبُرَ عَلَى الْمُشْرِكِينَ مَا تَدْعُوهُمْ إِلَيْهِ اللَّهُ يَجْتَبِي إِلَيْهِ مَن يَشَاءُ وَيَهْدِي إِلَيْهِ مَن يُنِيبُ

    42:13 He hath ordained for you that religion which He commended unto Noah, and that which We inspire in thee (Muhammad), and that which We commended unto Abraham and Moses and Jesus, saying: Establish the religion, and be not divided therein. Dreadful for the idolaters is that unto which thou callest them. Allah chooseth for Himself whom He will, and guideth unto Himself him who turneth (toward Him).

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  6. Great Blog i like this one and it is very truthful and gives insight to something that is more than ever a problem in western society A.K.A America.

    I have run into a few old friends at college and all of them seem to have problems with emotions, and relationships. all of them have kids but are not married and they are no longer with their partner because they cheated on them and so on.

    i told one of them that i was Muslim and he looked very shocked and the first words out of his mouth were " so you do not talk to women at all", I told him no not really. But i had let him know that waiting till one can afford to get married to have sex is the way things are suppose to be. He himself agreed with me that waiting to get merried to have sex after saving ones money and getting uducated was the way to go.

    but he does not know about that for himself, and only because he wants to have sex with women. but at the same time he looked down and seemed to be thinking about the women he had feelings for who he had a baby with that he left for cheating on him.

    I wish more people would try to understand the word of GOD but a lot of men run away from it because they simply just want to have sex and fornicate. Knowing that they will not truly be happy they still continue to do the same things only to be satisfied for a short while until they fall again.

    But Allah was not lying when he siad women can turn a mans heart away from Him, because every male i grew up with has this problem and i have talked to some of them about it but they cannot give up sex with new women.

    As for me i Have never had sex before and will not until i am married.

    I am glad i found Islam and i am never leaving. I am still learning and will continue.

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  7. Julian... Jazak Allah Khiraa... I can say no more ^__^

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  8. I am Christian and came upon this article as me and my boyfriend are beginning to struggle with "dont look/touch what you havent got", I found this article really useful so thankyou :)

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    1. thank you too, brother/sister in humanity ^__^

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